5 Truths I Had To Learn Before I Could Be Happy in My Relationship

And the lies that were getting in the way of my peace

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Rom-coms, the occasional anecdotal story, and the few books I’ve read did nothing to prepare me for being in love. They couldn’t teach me all I needed to know about the ins and outs of having such an intimate relationship with another human being.

“You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car but because they sing a song only you can hear.” — Oscar Wilde

While my relationship with my partner has been beautiful, transformative, and one of my favorite parts of my life, getting here has taken some hard lessons. Here are a few that I had to learn before I could find genuine happiness in my romance:

#1: Every relationship is different

I was insufferable for the first six months of my relationship. I’m surprised my now fiancé stayed with me through a time that was entirely terrifying for me. My anxious attachment was running rampant, and I was struggling in one area more than others.

Much of what I struggled with was the comparison game. My partner, Davis, could often…